Wednesday, December 13, 2006

TCL called today wanting to go out for cocktails tonight but I begged off, saying I had to study for Boards and pack for tomorrow, when I'm leaving AGAIN for more effing interviews. And it's true, I wasn't just trying to blow him off, so I told him I'd call him when I got back on Tuesday night. Just now I got a text from him, "Can't wait til Tuesday!" Aw. TCL is sweet. Why can't I like the nice guys? Why must I only be interested in the assholes?

7 comments:

Chick Pea said...

because bad boys are best.

kidding.
sorry chica.

Anonymous said...

You need to give this guy a chance. When he's this sweet, butterflies will develop.

Anonymous said...

No No No. If no butterflies, please please let him go fast. Don't try the "lets be friends" deal. Just make a clean break. If you guys try to stay friends, he will always want and hope that it will turn into something more. The more this goes on, the more hurt he will be. It is best to just end it now. Those butterflies can't be developed over time, they are either there or not !

doctorsquared said...

I'm with anon #2. If there are no butterflies, there are no butterflies. I tried really hard to like a guy that I dated for 3 months. He was sweet and cute and nice and he obviously liked me, and I kept hoping that maybe I would start to really like him one day. But it never happened. And now that I'm with someone who's *always* given me butterflies - even when we weren't dating - I know that they can't just happen...

trAcy said...

are you managing to do all this flying on one airline for the sake of those ff miles? just curious. envy the travel and the excitementness of being a medical professional and getting to CHOOSE where you want to work/live. i missed that part of my americanesque dream and just ended up anywhere by odd default. (once because of a relationship, which in the end was not a bad thing, but when i look back, it's not the most stellar "because" it could have been.)

ps, yeah, butterflies are necessary, even if they abate after a year or so. at least they were there. it means a ton to be actually attracted on that level to someone, even if you "know" that they are smart, compatible, lovely, reliable, etc. and wish that you had butterflies.

i don't know if butterflies will develop. i never felt them after the fact, ever, if they weren't there in the first place.

you still have a lot of time. and you're moving anyway, so i say, just play (nice) and (speaking as someone who didn't relationship-into-marriage until i was 27-30) know it's gonna happen when it happens.

for some reason, men don't do well with the "just friends" thing, they always do think that there's this huge, real, everlasting maybe.

Anonymous said...

aw. you gots to have the za-za-zu.

Anonymous said...

I totally concur, in general guys don't do well with the just friends thing. just to totally say the same thing as tracy, its probably because we always think, its maybe.

I know its not my place, but I feel bad for this guy. doesn't sound like your fault, but either he's got a really thick skin, or he's cruising for some kind of bruising.

although usually you can tell when sparks are not flying, so I'd guess he knows and maybe he's just sticking it out. Hmm. I still feel bad for him. Can you do a random reader a favor and let him down really explicitly? It totally works if the guy is mature, but it totally does not work if he is not. I ask because I can see myself as TLC, except not tall or a lawyer, or cute


Great blog btw!